I AM FINALLY THE MOTHER I ALWAYS WANTED TO BE FOR MY BOYS

Screaming, crying, irritated, frustrated yet filled with lots of love I have been a mom just like others. I have been through postpartum depression, a difficult pregnancy, a miscarriage with a toddler to handle and a lot of other struggles. This motherhood journey has been nothing but a roller coaster ride.

THE STRUGGLE

Ever Since I became a boy mom I wanted to be an ideal one

The one we see on screens, the BLUEY parent

I never wanted to lose my cool, show patience and most of all empathy towards my kids..

How would something feel to me if I were at their place?

But I couldn’t

I did lose my calm, cried because I thought it was too much to handle, and sleepless nights and constant cries did irritate me..

But I never stopped working on my self-improvement. I knew I needed to work on certain behaviours of mine. I knew I could do it and finally, after 8 years of parenting and three boys, I have achieved a lot of milestones I set for myself.Why I am writing this blog is to let other mothers know how I did this?

STARTED WORKING

First of all I started working. I have been a University Topper in Management and wasn’t working professionally. So somewhere I had this guilt that I was wasting my degree. On the other hand, I couldn’t leave my kids behind. So I started working from home as a freelance Content Writer. I always had a passion for writing. I just made it my profession later on. Working and earning gave a boost to my confidence and I started to regain my confidence.

PRE-MENSTRUAL SYMPTOMS

I identified that when my periods are near I become more frustrated. So a week before my date I relieved myself of certain duties. My husband shares the burden and tries to accommodate my mood swings.

I no longer force myself to do things I don’t like. In South Asian culture this is something really hard to achieve. 11 years of marriage and 34 years of age have finally given me the confidence to speak up for myself.

Raising boys is difficult. They have a high metabolism and are a powerhouse of energy. That doesn’t mean they are not sensitive. All my sons are sensitive. They have different personalities and likings. The most important thing that I am teaching them these days is to get their stuff organized. Another is to be kind and empathetic. 

MY FINAL THOUGHTS

So finally I have stopped shouting at my boys which is a huge achievement. They do listen to me and I do control my tone while talking to them. I do have mood swings but I tend to spend those days relaxing myself. It’s not easy living a mum’s life, but if you understand your shortcomings and work on them, you can one day meet your personal goals as a mother.