I am a Boy Mom
I have three wonderful beautiful boys for which I am extremely thankful. This blog is very close to my heart. Each and every word I am writing here is solely based on my personal experience. I am pretty sure all the boy moms worldwide will relate with me one way or the other.
I always wanted a baby girl. When I was pregnant with my third baby I didn’t know it was a boy until 6 months of pregnancy. GOD always has different plans for you.
I must say something different and Unexpected. I am thankful for whatever I have. Although I do miss the sweetness of having a daughter.
This blog is about what my boys have taught me. So are you ready to listen to the tales of a BOY MOM?
What does being a boy mom mean?
Of Course, it means having just boys as your children. When you have only sons and no daughters. You have to organize just undies, t-shirts, shorts and jeans. When all the toys you can have are Hot Wheels, dinosaurs and superheroes. Also when the colour scheme of your kid’s room can only be blue, grey and white. When barbies are not allowed in your house.
I guess I have made myself or the definition of a boy mom quite clear here.
What Boys Have Taught Me:
- Boys are Sensitive and Vulnerable
This is a common perception that girls are sensitive. They are vulnerable. Boys on the other hand are always perceived to be strong and tough.
Well I object
I have been living as a boy mom for the past 8 years now. Being the only lady in the house, believe me, I have known so much about boys and men equally.
I mean don’t guys have a heart?
They have feelings too
Boys can feel overwhelmed and vulnerable
They are equally as sensitive as girls. Otherwise, I think there is no specific standard to measure a gender’s feelings and emotions.
Every human being either a boy or a girl, is worthy of love and affection. There should be no discrimination between boys and girls.
- It’s ok to Let Them Cry
The culture I live in always teaches boys to not cry. I mean crying is perceived to be emotionally weak.
Where is it written?
Teach your boys that crying is normal. It doesn’t mean that they are emotionally weak. It’s just a way of expressing their emotions. Let them pour their heart out. Listen to what they say. Understand what they tell you.
It’s ok to let them cry!
- The Endless Dose of Energy
BOYS ARE NEVER TIRED
I mean they literally push themselves to sleep. Taking a rest and going to sleep is always the last option they are going to choose. My elder one is an extremely active kid. Even when I was expecting him all I could feel was his kicks!
If he stays in the same pose for the past 5 minutes straight that means that either he is having fever or he is not feeling well.
I mean there’s no chance that he is fine and not jumping and moving.
I believe boys have an endless dose of energy. If you are a boy mom you should convince yourself that you have no right to:
Get tired
Eat in peace
Sleep in peace
Shop for yourself without being bribed of some dinosaur toys and Hotwheels
Etc etc etc
- Fighting is a Norm
For boy moms fighting and wrestling are normal games. It is their way of expressing love and expression. My middle one’s all-time favourite game is fighting. Whatever he dies has some kind of violence involved in it. Sometimes I believe that fighting and hitting is his LOVE LANGUAGE..
So being a boy mom I have never observed playing them in peace. Even if they are playing with their plushies or animals they make them fight or wrestle with each other.
Forget peaceful play time that involves pretend play like cooking and dressing up dollies…
Get ready to tolerate fighting for the rest of your life…
- Appreciate their Decisions and Choices
This is something not just a boy mom but all moms should learn.
Appreciation is the real motivation
Teach your kids to make their own decisions and appreciate them. Help them make their own choices and again appreciate them.
I always take my kids shopping and let them decide for themselves which clothes they want. They decide what colours they would like to wear. Sometimes it doesn’t go the way I expect. But with the passage of time it has instilled a lot of positive changes in them.
They have now learnt to shop
They have learnt to make decisions for themselves.
If you want to make your kids emotionally strong you have to make them learn to speak for their choices. Value their decisions!
- All they Need is Love
Being a boy mom this is the sweetest thing I have learnt.
ALL THEY NEED IS LOVE
Make them feel loved. They never grow up. Especially for a mother. They will always need their mama.
Love them as much as you can. The more you will love them the more they will learn to spread love and return love.
My Two Cents
Although the whole blog is a true expression of my experience of being a boy mom yet there’s still a lot I would like to pen down. Life is precious and it is different for everyone. It has unique challenges and opportunities for all of us. Some of us are boy moms, some are girl moms and others are blessed to have both.
I believe life is all about learning at every stage. Being a boy mom has taught me a lot. My boys have taught me patience, empathy and love. I have had breakdowns …
But it’s natural.. I have returned stronger every time…
My boys have taught me how to love
They are my precious and as I always sayI might not be the perfect mom for them but I have always tried to be one.